After receiving my most recent email, the pastor has kindly agreed to remove the word Confirmation from what we will have to say as parents during the Baptism, which brings it to something I can live with. What a relief. I was getting to my want-to-go-hide-in-my-bathtub-until-this-whole-thing-is-over state. I hate conflict. And it was getting so that it would be between hating myself or disappointing someone I love, my mother-in-law. So glad to have it resolved.
I'm glad it got resolved, and you're feeling better. You need to lower the stress right now, not add to it my dear.
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Posted by: Aurelia | February 23, 2007 at 12:36 PM
I think your request was totally reasonable and glad it was mostly granted.
I think it is more respectable to be certain about what you believe and to act accordingly than to go along with what someone else believes to be polite. This is a ceremony about your child, too--so of course you should be able to determine what is said and done.
It feels wrong to me that my child isn't baptized and that there are no plans to do so, as I am a southern girl born and raised in the church (Presbyterianism). But I am not a Christian and I am not going to go to church, so it would be even more wrong to me to have the ceremony.
I know my mother wants it done, but she also wants me to go to church. She keeps trying to tell me to be Unitarian, actually. Frankly, if I were going to be "something," I would be Jewish. I once took conversion classes and stopped just short of converting because I realized I just don't believe in god. I'm just not convinced!
Posted by: Eva | February 23, 2007 at 06:07 PM