The couple in the elevator

When I went to get my blood drawn for my beta (!) test this morning, I rode up on the elevator with the couple I'd waited with in the blood draw area two weeks ago.  Back then, they were there for their beta test.  They said it was their first and only IVF, and they hadn't used an HPT.  I thought then that I would never know what happened to them.

And today I was afraid to ask. Because even though there they were back two weeks after their beta test, presumably for an ultrasound to take a look at the implanted embryos, something you only do when you are pregnant, they looked somber.

I wanted to say, "Congratulations!  So glad to see you back here two weeks later!"

But I was afraid to. Maybe their home pregnancy test (HPT) showed a fading line. Or maybe they'd been in a couple days before and the ultrasound was not as far along as expected. (I didn't think it could be a "Next Step" appointment because a) our clinic only schedules those in the afternoon and b) the couple had said this was their one and only IVF)  So I was just worried about them, and afraid if I said anything they would burst into tears (ok, maybe just SHE would burst into tears and he would look forlorn).  You know, I've been in that place of stressing out and waiting. There is so much hope pinned on this process. Your whole life is different depending on the outcome.  And adjusting to the outcome takes some time.

So I was quiet in the elevator. I let them go into the office first. And I still don't know what happened  for them. But I'm still praying and keeping my fingers crossed for them.

Comments

[Carol]

Good luck with your beta today!

[Plain Jane Mom]

Yeah, it is tough to know how to interact with people you meet at the clinic. People react to the situation differently. Some folks want to chat, others hide behind a magazine...

Good luck with your bloodwork today. Everything's crossed.