On my way out to the supermarket last night to get milk and milk and baby wipes, I ran into the daughter of our across-the-street neighbors. She is a nanny and is the only non-family member who has babysat for Jack. I hadn’t seen her in a few weeks, and she usually visits her parents quite a lot. I’d actually left a message to see if she was available to babysit on Sunday morning (when we were at our embryo transfer) but her mom stopped by the night before and said she had other plans.
So last night while I was pulling out of the driveway she was just pulling into the driveway of her parents. She swung open her car door and rushed over to my car. I put the window down and she said she was sorry she couldn’t babysit. I said that was fine because we found someone else to do it.
And then she told me her news: she is three months pregnant. She just found out last week. Now, as an infertility patient, it is hard for me to imagine going through your entire first trimester without even knowing that you are pregnant. I mean, then you miss all the fun worrying about miscarriage, genetic problems, etc. But it is clearly a different world, this world of unplanned pregnancies that are achieved at no cost by simply having sex (!)
Elizabeth was very excited about her news. Her boyfriend wants to get married now, but they just found out last week, so no plans have been made yet. She kept asking me pregnancy questions, as if I were some expert on pregnancy… And yet I was so excited for her as well. She and her parents were so sweet to us when we were pregnant the first time with Will and the second time with Jack. And she continues to give Jack birthday gifts, etc.
So she is due in mid-May. I told her about what we are doing on Sunday, and she’s excited about that too. It seems like everyone we mention it to seems to think that if you transfer the embryos they all take. No one questions whether this cycle will work. Even David is convinced it will (because, he says, if it does it will be one more thing to worry about on top of the lay-off, etc. and that’s how the universe works for us). I’m the only one who is worried that it won’t work.
I wished congratulations to Elizabeth, and she said she would pray for success for us — another person in a growing list of those who have pledged to pray for this cycle’s success. I am grateful to every one.
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