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October 19, 2006



Yes, it is a good question about inevitableness and all. I don't mind hearing it from people who are gently putting it out there, and even debating it with some sensitivity, but you're right, it does skip over the losses and the anger.
So it makes for bad conversation with the average person. Certainly the average co-worker! Ouch...

Fiona Young-Brown

You're right about the way these comments belittle the genuine grief that other women are feeling. Why is it that we would never feel justified in making similar comments about other illnesses or diseases but people feel it's ok to make statements about infertility? It shows a complete lack of sensitivity.


Wow...I don't know if I could have walked away from the conversation (I'm proud of you for knowing when to walk away). I think some people have these ideas deeply ingrained until they are faced with their life crisis and it makes them see the rest of the world in an entirely new light.

Terrible conversation.


If you've never had to deal with infertility then you never know how painful it can be. I don't think people mean any harm by what they say, they are just ignorant to the feelings of the person and what they are going through. It's a personal decision when to say "enough" and decide that you're going to have to become a Mom through other means. I did just that, but I would not want someone to make that decision for me or tell me just to accept it.


I'm really late to the party on this post but I have to comment: that is just a really horrible thing to say. Why is IF sent directly from God and other bad things not so? Why do people say things like that? My own father said a similar thing to me. I told him God wanted him to die of heart disease and he shouldn't fight it any longer. Luckily, he laughed and said he 'got it'. And I'm glad he did, because otherwise I'd have a hard time forgiving him.

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